Hello my lovelies,
Recently, Mr Delightful has started a new job which means that we don’t see each other as much. In the week, we are apart and depending on my work shifts, I may also be working Saturday. So, from being together almost everyday, to 3 days a week has been an adjustment. We do talk and facetime everyday, but I thought I would share the ways that we connect and have a little self-care together with you all.
As you may know, self-care and mental health is a big passion of mine. To be honest, day-to-day stress quickly builds in me, and I find that having a bit of me time really does help.
Eat Dinner together at the table
It may seem like a massive chore to not only have a dining table clear, but to sit there every meal. For us, it not only helps us enjoy our food more (check out our new website to see how foodie we are) but it also gives us a chance to talk and connect again. We’ve vowed to carry on this tradition, and in just under 18 months, haven’t failed yet.
Have a Bath together.
Mr Delightful didn’t quite believe me when I said that having a fancy bath each week helped me prepare for the week ahead. So, I convinced him to give it a go with me. Not only do we get to relax together doing something that can be seen as a little decadent (time is precious these days after all) but we also get to soak away the stresses of the week together, and prepare to be amazing on Monday.
I admit, that the few times we haven’t had our weekly bath together, I have felt out of sorts. Don’t get me wrong, I was still awesome, but I felt like it was a lot more effort that usual. So baths will save the world, especially if you treat yourself to a Lush bath bomb.
Explore and have Adventures together
Not only is it healthy to chill and have quiet time together, but it’s also important to go and do things together too. It doesn’t have to be expensive, a walk around the local park would be lovely. I have seen online that you can add all the things you want to do together in a jar and pick them out, but we prefer to be a little spontaneous too. I have a page in my journal, that not only shows all the holidays we want, but also the adventures a little closer to home too. Trawling through vintage shops, going for a picnic and other random adventures have helped us have fun together and become closer in the process.
Be romantic and make an effort
Okay, so I know that we haven’t been together that long and are still very firmly in the honeymoon phase; but why does the honeymoon phase have to end?
I think making an effort to do nice things for each other “just because” and to be openly romantic is very important. It’s so easy to be caught up in the bills and who’s doing the laundry that romance can get pushed aside. We make an effort to do nice things for each other, not to get them in return, but to make the other person happy. And let’s face it, who doesn’t love kisses and cuddles from their beloved?
Be a Team
This is an important one. Long term couples fall into the trap of who is right when there’s a disagreement. However, it should be noted that when a conversation about something serious is happening the approach of you both against the problem as a team is much more effective compared to you both against each other.
It’s not about who’s right, it’s about working out a solution on what’s right for you both. Being open and honest about your feelings and concerns instead of burying them in the back of your mind is not only healthy for the relationship, but for you both as people too.
These are just a few notes and musings on what I have learnt since meeting my beau. I finally feel that he is the right one for me, and now everything seems to make a lot more sense. I am more confident in myself, and I haven’t experienced the crippling anxiety or worry I’ve had before.
In other news, we’ve been to two amazing weddings this year, have a few social occasions planned, but most importantly I’ll be moving house in the near future. I’m a little sad to be leaving (and not looking forward to all that packing) but change is good because it helps us to grow as people. I might not be posting as much as I would like, but tutorials are in the pipe line for the future.
also… managed to finally get a beautiful vintage dressing table, and a cabinet for all the lovely gin. Living the dream